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Old January 20, 2004, 00:42   #121
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I knew I was on a downward spiral when I lost control of the TV remote
ah -- so THIS is when you lost your masculinity
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Old January 20, 2004, 00:43   #122
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Sounds like Horsie is taking her wife for granted. Not good.
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Old January 20, 2004, 00:45   #123
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It's like I said earlier guys.......it's the old addage if you want something right do it yourself. No matter how much we want you to do it, we still think we can do it better so we basically set you up for the fall......unwittingly of course Even if you do it seven ways from Sunday correct.......it will still be wrong, somethings you just can't win
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Sounds like Horsie is taking her wife for granted. Not good.
Oh pig's arse - it's all just parlour games.

I'm firmly of the view that noone knows what really goes on between a married couple, even the couple themselves

I've just pulled out one a little undercurrent for your amusement.
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Old January 20, 2004, 07:24   #125
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I agree that what goes on between a man and a woman is fundamentally mysterious.

Long be it so.

And from the little bits that peek out from behind your studied superficiality, Horsie, I would not be surprised if Mrs Horse is not a rather happy lady.

But she probably doesn't know it.

My puerile ponderings on the Mars/Venus thing have got this far. Men are fulfilled by domesticity, women are not. Put a man into a household which is broadly comfortable and the fact that there are some minor tensions and a bit of a rut won't bother him. He may be conscious that things are not perfect but he will work quietly away to improve what he can and tell himself that overall all is well. Meanwhile he will furnish out his rut very nicely with all the stuff he likes, computer games, hanging out with his sons and the odd barby with some cans of some foul lager or other.

A pig in clover. Settled and happy.

What of the female of the species? Well the basic difference is that the immediate state of her emotions, day by day, hour by hour, is what matters. Not whether, overall, she is well fixed.

Which gives a much greater significance to minor daily irritations and to ennui.

And this leads to my conclusion about initiative and surprise.

You mustn't let her emotional horizons be dominated by the minor irritations and ennui. So engineer some events. The emotional highs and lows which this brings about will counterbalance, or put into emotional perspective, the minor stuff born of domesticity.

So says Auntie EST.
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Or you could just be sneaky and spill some cola on the TV remote (that is a sure way of breaking it), buy a replacement and hide it somewhere for your use whilst not letting on that the original one no longer works.

Voila! You have control again.
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Old January 20, 2004, 07:31   #127
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I get irritated with my hubby about this sometimes but sometimes he's just a mindless git. For example for some reason he can't seem to find anything he's looking for even when it's in front of him in the frige or pantry. I think this is an inbred traight in all men.
My girlfriend and I had a talk yesterday about why it seems that women always seem to note everything that needs to be done in a home while men never notice...

In a lot of couples we know, the women feel that they have an extra child (referring to their husband) to look after... They have to tell them to do everything that needs to be done (at home or regarding their children) or else it just won't happen (but they would all re-marry the same man if given the chance to re-live their lives)...

My girlfriend's hypothesis takes a, I guess, evolutionary starting point. Men hunted and brought home prey; women stayed in the cave (and its close surroundings) tendering the offspring and the cave.

Thousands of generations doing the same thing for tens of thousands of years have wired/conditioned us to behave like this. True or false, good or bad, I don't know...

My girlfriend works with children, has met a zillion couples, and asserts that it's almost always the case that women have this broader regard than men concerning children and home... She doesn't see it as a bad thing, though: men and women are complements...

Could also be that we see the same need, but have different priorities... "Tendering the garden or playing as the Turks in the WWII scenario?" Hm, tough choice...

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My girlfriend and I...
ah-HAH!
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Old January 20, 2004, 14:58   #131
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I've been married 23-24 years and I dont think my wife has ever even dreamed that I would do anything on a 'honey-do' list.

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The most important lesson my dad taught me: feign ineptitude. That way the woman will eventually give up trying to get you to do sometinhg, and just do it herself. Leaves you plenty of free time to watch TV/play on 'puter.
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Bah! Horsie KNOWS that alot of people have this problem.

The whole "hunter-nestmaker" anthropological thing is old and irrelevant as well.

What matters is HOW BEST TO DEAL WITH IT!

Precious few useful tips.

Things I do-
(We both work full-time)

I make my own do-list, and leave it in a conspicuous place. Then I get definitive say in what I work on, and cannot be accused of not worrying about things domestic.

I make it clear in advance what recreational activities I am planning on. Watching football, shooting hoops, whatever, so that she can get used to the idea.

I react with annoyance when I am interrupted during such activities that were planned and announced in advance.

I have found that if my wife is doing or about to start some unpleasant task, this is when the nagging will occur. It simply drives her crazy if she is dusting and vacuuming and I am on the computer. Even if I was working earlier and she was reading. So I try to work when she works, as much as possible; and schedule rec time when she isn't.

I have made it clear that she can do a task the way she wants, or ask me to do it the way I want, but she cannot ask me to do it the way she wants. This caused some fireworks on occasion, and still needs the occasional reminder. But the logic is undeniable. I don't like a filthy bathroom, but I have no desire to clean it such that you can eat off the porcelain. If her standards are that high and she is unsatisfied with anything less, the reality is the cleaning is not for need but for her personal satisfaction. You go, girl.

It drives most women crazy to watch men vacuum, because they are relaxed and make vacuuming look easy. Women vacuum like they are running a marathon with a sixty pound backpack. It looks like they are trying to push the thing right through the floor. It doesn't make the carpet any cleaner....

I have made it clear that I would rather pull my own teeth than pull weeds from the garden. The things I despise doing I will not do. Conversely, the things my wife despises doing, I actually enjoy doing for her because I really don't mind and I know she hates it.

I make my sons do work and I pay them for it. This tends to annoy my wife at times. She does work the boys could do, and then gives them money for nothing. Recently, she has come around to my methods...
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The Mad Viking is no dummy. Very thoughtful and creative I think. Wife as partner -v- wife as Mommy; what a concept.

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AH, you screwed yourself from the get go, day 1... You, for some reason or another, pretended like you cared, made yourself available, or even - dare I say - willing!!!

You can't just change! Still, I get asked to things every now and then. We have specifc days to do chores. I always cook and do the dishes so I get out of a lot of things. As long as dinner is ready by 8pm I don't get bugged much.

I too have notived that women tend to have way more energy than men, and that can get really annoying.

One good way to avoid the "Honey, can you do me a favor" lure is to get stinking drunk. That way she knowns that even if you attempt to do the favor it will only be done as well a stumbling idiot could possibly hope to accomplish the task. After a few botched tries you will surely never be asked to do anything while drunk again. The trick from then on out is to maintain a balance between being drunk too much that she starts complaining and not drunk often enough that you find yourself at her becking call.

Wifey hardly ever keeps an eye on me because I am either a) cooking (and no, dear, you can't "help"), b) watching TV, or c) playing video games... not a whole lot to see. Yet, if she decides to come in to the office and start chatting with me when my whole game is going down the toilet I generally start to masterbate. This will either a) gross her out and make her leave, or b) get her hot and bother. Either one is good since with (a) you get to go back to your game or with (b) you get some nookie....

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Why is it women seem to come in and bother you just as your game is going down the crapper?
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I always know I'm in trouble when my wife starts off a weekend conversation with "So what did you plan on doing today?" Sure sign that I need to think up some token chores (and think them up quick) in order to avoid her list. So usually I leave some open ends on every project I do around the house, and use them as outs for avoiding her list.

I've also made her realize that any "big" project requires advanced notice. If she tries to spring some large project on me, I respond that I'm lacking some critical material and will have to go to Home Depot, leaving her home to care for the three boys. That usually results in a "Oh, go on your way home from work and do it next weekend."
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Why is it women seem to come in and bother you just as your game is going down the crapper?
It's just because they're so in tune with you , that they sense you're suffering and arrive to help you out because you're their one and only .
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I always know I'm in trouble when my wife starts off a weekend conversation with "So what did you plan on doing today?" Sure sign that I need to think up some token chores (and think them up quick) in order to avoid her list. So usually I leave some open ends on every project I do around the house, and use them as outs for avoiding her list.

I've also made her realize that any "big" project requires advanced notice. If she tries to spring some large project on me, I respond that I'm lacking some critical material and will have to go to Home Depot, leaving her home to care for the three boys. That usually results in a "Oh, go on your way home from work and do it next weekend."
I've told my wife that any involved chore (meaning longer than 15 minutes) dumped on me the day that I'm supposed to do it will simply not get done. Big chores (like painting) require at least a weeks notice, possibly more. If it needs to get done faster... well, nothing really "needs" painting immediately, but if it does, again: her arms aren't broken.

I've really been a **** when it comes to "sudden" housework throughout our marriage... it was something I hated as a kid and vowed not to tolerate as an adult.
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Nice thing about my strategy is that it set the bar so low that I can just tiptoe across it to much acclaim. For example she got some birdcage and wanted it hung in the house. She was about to do it herself when I stepped in and said "let me do it." She was so thrilled that
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Unfortunately both of our family's are full of DIY types, so I'm expected to keep pace.

At least I've convinced her that hiring a lawn care service to mow/trim is better than losing me for a few hours every weekend during the summer.
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You poor soul. I would've dropped out of that race as soon as possible.
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There seems to be some confusion here - this is not about sharing housework. Mrs Horse and I have that pretty fairly carved up.

But one thing that lady of the house can't understand is that many men don't have a schedule for their day and regard doing nothing as relaxation.

This was brought out by a friend of mine at work who said it took her a long time to understand that when she asked her husband what he was thinking about and he said "nothing", he wasn't hiding his thoughts or feelings - he really was thinking about nothing

Seems men can do that, switch off, and women can't.
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Make love to her, AH. After a month or so, she shall have a new life to nurture within her, and she won't bother you so much. (And maybe this time it'll be a little girl!)

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Don't be bloody ridiculous.

This is not some corny samurai epic and I'm certainly not Conan the Impregnator.
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I always know I'm in trouble when my wife starts off a weekend conversation with "So what did you plan on doing today?" Sure sign that I need to think up some token chores (and think them up quick) in order to avoid her list. So usually I leave some open ends on every project I do around the house, and use them as outs for avoiding her list.

I've also made her realize that any "big" project requires advanced notice. If she tries to spring some large project on me, I respond that I'm lacking some critical material and will have to go to Home Depot, leaving her home to care for the three boys. That usually results in a "Oh, go on your way home from work and do it next weekend."
MY GOD this sounds like Mrs Horse. It's comforting to know I am not alone.

I HATE the plan question. I NEVER have a "plan" for the weekend. Mere Male that I am, I thought the weekend was about not/not having a plan.
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Don't be bloody ridiculous.

This is not some corny samurai epic and I'm certainly not Conan the Impregnator.
Touched a sensitive spot, did I? Sorry, bud, but when 8 out of every 10 threads you start are generally whimsical in nature, I assumed this one fell in the majority.

You want serious advice? I suggest seeing a therapist or marriage counselor.

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hey! that was a whismiscal answer!

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