Have had same problem for a couple of games. I am playing with friend - 3 or four in all - we save the multiplayer game and when we reload it (perhaps 5 min. later) we are assigned each others Civs (that is someone else is assigned to my civ and the same all around - exept the one hosting - switching host does not seem to help) any ideas?
When you get each others civs, all you have to do is click the number to the left of the player name and it will scroll through all the civs. That way, everyone can pick the right civ.
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