I suck at flirting. - Page 4

DaShi · June 19, 2003, 15:27

And following her home and watching her undress through the window. That's a riskier approach.

DaShi · June 19, 2003, 15:30

Seriously, if you see her there often and need to know her better, just make small talk each time you go until you feel comfortable enough to ask her out. She'll probably feel more comfortable too. Basically, flirting can just be small talk.

Colon™ · June 19, 2003, 15:30

I've read her calling card, so I could send a private detective after her to find out what she does after working hours.

Colon™ · June 19, 2003, 16:01

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Originally posted by DaShi
Seriously, if you see her there often and need to know her better, just make small talk each time you go until you feel comfortable enough to ask her out. She'll probably feel more comfortable too. Basically, flirting can just be small talk.

I'm not much of a small talk person and it's hard to come up with a subject in that environment. I don't visit the supermarket very regularly either.

We've made some eye contact, so I'm inclined to ask her for a drink after work flat out.

Solly · June 19, 2003, 16:17

Actually, having thought of this thread while perusing credit details of many major UK and US companies today

, I came to the conclusion that men do not and should not flirt. Women flirt. Men react..

TCO · June 19, 2003, 16:22

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Originally posted by Colon
Anybody have any strategies for this: cute girl working as a cashier at a supermarket in my neighbourhood. I prefer to ask someone out after I got the chance to get to know her a bit but there isn't much of an opportunity to have chat. (obviously) but I've never seen her outside of her workplace either. How do I handle this?

(Speaking from experience) With girls like that (waitress, cashier, etc.), you won't have time to get to know them from chitchat, they way you might with a classmate or coworker. So just ask them out directly. It becomes much more of a go/non-go. Less worryingabout how to aks them, less investment in strategy, etc. Just ask them out directly. I'd advise something reasonably neutral (not a vastly expensive date) so that neigher of you feels too much pressure, since you don't know if you'll even get along that well.

TCO · June 19, 2003, 16:24

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Genius!

But how about waiting at the entrance until her working day is over?

That's one approach, but I would just do it directly. who cares if there are other people around. Just get the yes or no. you can make arrangements to talk later for logistical details if she doesn't have much time to talk because of customer demands.

TCO · June 19, 2003, 16:28

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Originally posted by Colon

I'm not much of a small talk person and it's hard to come up with a subject in that environment. I don't visit the supermarket very regularly either.

We've made some eye contact, so I'm inclined to ask her for a drink after work flat out.

This is the way to go. For all you know, she has a boyfriend and won't go out. (But still smiles with male customers). better to just ask and get the info. I think it always takes some guts to ask someone out, so you can feel good about yourself just for asking even if the answer is no. And human nature being what it is, there is a 50/50 chance she says yes.

Colon™ · June 19, 2003, 16:38

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Originally posted by GP

(Speaking from experience) With girls like that (waitress, cashier, etc.), you won't have time to get to know them from chitchat, they way you might with a classmate or coworker. So just ask them out directly. It becomes much more of a go/non-go. Less worryingabout how to aks them, less investment in strategy, etc. Just ask them out directly. I'd advise something reasonably neutral (not a vastly expensive date) so that neigher of you feels too much pressure, since you don't know if you'll even get along that well.

I knew you'd drop by!

Guess I'll just do that then. Plenty of cosy bars and restos in the neighbourhood so it shouldn't be too hard to arrange something after working hours. (if she wants to)

Lemme take a look at the fridge if there's anything I need to buy tomorrow.

Colon™ · June 19, 2003, 16:46

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Originally posted by GP

This is the way to go. For all you know, she has a boyfriend and won't go out. (But still smiles with male customers). better to just ask and get the info. I think it always takes some guts to ask someone out, so you can feel good about yourself just for asking even if the answer is no. And human nature being what it is, there is a 50/50 chance she says yes.

We've also had eye contact when I was in another queue than at her cash register, which gives me a good feeling about this. Besides, cashiers don't smile in Belgium.

Solly · June 19, 2003, 16:52

Eye contact?

This is going to be nothing but a roaring success...

TCO · June 19, 2003, 16:54

Good luck, young duck.

Ming · June 19, 2003, 16:59

Remember... the worst she can say is no...

When I asked my wife to be for the "first date"... she said no... but quickly followed up with "I'm busy that evening, can we make it Thursday instead"

Good luck... GO for IT !

Makeo · June 19, 2003, 17:06

they laugh in english so that everyone can understand it

DanS · June 19, 2003, 17:57

Besides, cashiers don't smile in Belgium.

Morose freaks!

Colon™ · June 19, 2003, 18:08

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Originally posted by Boddington's
Eye contact?

This is going to be nothing but a roaring success...

I'll make sure to have a glass of wine before I go shopping though.

Zero · June 19, 2003, 18:43

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Originally posted by DaShi
Say, "So do you like work here or something?"

Stupid can be cute.

no not stupid, naive

Colon™ · June 19, 2003, 18:45

Shall I try to be both?

Provost Harrison · June 19, 2003, 18:47

Just be yourself Colon...ummm...on the other hand, erm, yes, be both

Zero · June 19, 2003, 18:47

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Shall I try to be both?

not in excess.

Zero · June 19, 2003, 18:49

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Originally posted by Provost Harrison
Just be yourself Colon...ummm...on the other hand, erm, yes, be both

Being urself and spending a good deal of time to get to know her is like the only 2 things u need to worry about.

Colon™ · June 19, 2003, 18:59

I'll try to be more naive than stupid, so that she'll maybe take advantage of me.

Provost Harrison · June 19, 2003, 19:00

Well it is fine if you seem endearing, but don't do a Mr Bean, please

Zero · June 19, 2003, 19:04

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Well it is fine if you seem endearing, but don't do a Mr Bean, please

once again... not in excess.

You can try to be cute by trying take some characteristic that you may think she'll be attracted to, dont get carried away wit it. they'll think ur a freak.

Best bet is to be urself if u dont have any idea of what u are doing.

Lorizael · June 19, 2003, 20:06

I don't understand why anyone would ever try to be anything more than who they are. If the relationship lasts, honesty must take precedence and the farsical personality will have to go.

Unspeakable Horror · June 19, 2003, 20:12

Remember to tell us what happened

*Carlos113 joins the "I suck at flirting" club

Zero · June 19, 2003, 20:20

anyways, back on topic.

I just dont flirt at all. And especially wit girls I dont know, I dont see any gains if Im not gonna make some kind of move anyway, and If I was going to make a move I usually take my time to get to know my prey, so theres very little room for flirting wit strangers.

Zero · June 19, 2003, 20:30

Here's a lil philosohpy on girls. Felt like philosophizing today

Im trying to relate my favorite hobby wit it.

getting in a relationship is alot like fishing

Sometimes no matter how much you screw up, the fish will swallow the bait whole because it has already decided to fall for you.

If you wanna catch striped bass, you hang out where bunkers are... If you wanna catch that girl you gotta hang out where her friends are or whatever it gets you with her.

Sometimes they are very picky, and you just need time until they decide whether they will bite or not. If you decide the reel in too soon, you wont get anything, but if ur too hesitant you would have just wasted ur bait and time.

If you dont cast(aka try) you dont catch any fish!

once youve casted the bait, you really cant do much other than just wait for a response.

Ones that get away always seems like the biggest fish you ever could have had....

Urban Ranger · June 20, 2003, 01:04

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Originally posted by Colon
How do I handle this?

You can always go buy a single item at the supermarket at a time, always wait on her line. You could do it several time a day. When she's curious enough to ask you about it, you say, "I am not interested in buying the stuff, I am interested in seeing you more."

Jaguar · June 20, 2003, 01:10

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Originally posted by Urban Ranger

You can always go buy a single item at the supermarket at a time, always wait on her line. You could do it several time a day. When she's curious enough to ask you about it, you say, "I am not interested in buying the stuff, I am interested in seeing you more."

That's cute enough that it could work.