Huggy-wuggie-touchie-feelie

Bugs ****ing Bunny · June 21, 2003, 05:02

Are you a tactile person? Do you tend to touch people? Ruffle their hair or pat their backs?

Now I tend to start making involuntary growling noises if anyone gets within three feet of me. My personal space gets invaded strictly at the offender's peril. Unfortunately I work in an environment stuffed with ambitious go-getters who read "The one minute manager" (and believe it! Fools!), and have taken particular note of the vital importance of touching workmates to show solidarity and empathy.

That's probably not the best move to use on one who's instinctive reaction is to go for their eyes. So how do you bunnies feel on this issue? Do you do it? Do you enjoy being poked and prodded by colleagues and managers? The bastards.

FrustratedPoet · June 21, 2003, 05:07

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Do you do it? Do you enjoy being poked and prodded by colleagues and managers?

If they are young attractive women, then yes. If it's anyone else, then no. That's the answer to both questions.

Az · June 21, 2003, 05:07

I sometimes pat people on the back.

Urban Ranger · June 21, 2003, 05:15

It depends. I don't mind if the other person is a friend or an attractive woman either way. Otherwise, depends on what kind of touch it is.

Bugs ****ing Bunny · June 21, 2003, 05:18

I don't care whether the patter in question is male, female, or some weird and "specialist market" state in between. Unless I've given express permission beforehand, I don't want anyone touching me.

Starchild · June 21, 2003, 05:27

Touching workmates shows solidarity? Do you work in a communist porn set?

Ben Kenobi · June 21, 2003, 05:30

Personally, I don't mind if someone touches me. If I like them, hugs are pretty nice to get.

Getting my *** grabbed several times, after I've warned someone would not fly. Especially if it's a guy.

I do try to shake people's hands, and that sort of thing without being asked.

Does your edict specify handshakes, Laz?

Az · June 21, 2003, 05:36

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Getting my *** grabbed several times, after I've warned someone would not fly. Especially if it's a guy.

Urban Ranger · June 21, 2003, 05:45

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Originally posted by Starchild
Touching workmates shows solidarity? Do you work in a communist porn set?

Handmelon players pat each other on the arse all the time

Stefu · June 21, 2003, 06:18

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Are you a tactile person? Do you tend to touch people? Ruffle their hair or pat their backs?

Now I tend to start making involuntary growling noises if anyone gets within three feet of me.

...this paints an interesting mental picture of Laz as a furry...

Skanky Burns · June 21, 2003, 06:23

And like that, the thread was ruined...

Dauphin · June 21, 2003, 07:12

Very much dislike it. I never make physical contact with my family, let alone other people.

I enjoy a large personal space. If in a conversation it can get very annoying when after inching back to a comfortable distance the person starts inching forward to close the gap I just created.

Solly · June 21, 2003, 07:12

In a workplace, best avoided.

Bugs ****ing Bunny · June 21, 2003, 07:55

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Originally posted by obiwan18

Does your edict specify handshakes, Laz?

Grudgingly. However if they try to use both hands, or hold on too long, I tend to find myself looking around for the nearest makeshift weapon.

Solly · June 21, 2003, 07:56

"However if they try to use both hands"

Prov likes that one...

Urban Ranger · June 21, 2003, 07:57

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Originally posted by Big Crunch
I enjoy a large personal space.

That's very Yank like.

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Originally posted by Big Crunch
If in a conversation it can get very annoying when after inching back to a comfortable distance the person starts inching forward to close the gap I just created.

I always like to do that to annoy people

Immortal Wombat · June 21, 2003, 08:17

Damn you and all those like you

I find myself turning sideways so at least it doesn't look too much like I'm running away backwards. But then we end up doing a slow dance in a circle. And I have to put in quite an effort to override it for attractive females.

C0ckney · June 21, 2003, 08:23

don't mind hand skakes, friendly pats on the back or hugging girls i know, but if someone i don't know taps me or prods me, my first reaction is to think (and, sometimes say) 'f*ck off', even if it's a really fit bird in a club :/

Starchild · June 21, 2003, 08:24

I like physical contact. Hugging, holding hands, penetrative sex, etc.

I love clubbing. All those people packed together, the feel of the music when you stand next to a speaker, the lights. Heaven would be a club full of beautiful people dancing to Dirrty.

Eli · June 21, 2003, 08:36

There is someone I know who just loves to stand 5cm from your face when she's talking to you.

We start talking, she gets too close, I retreat, she gets closer, I retreat again, she gets even closer, I stumble into the wall and find an excuse to get the hell out of there.

FrustratedPoet · June 21, 2003, 08:39

Start to spit when you talk and then she'll stay the hell back.

KrazyHorse · June 21, 2003, 11:25

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Originally posted by Lazarus and the Gimp
Are you a tactile person? Do you tend to touch people? Ruffle their hair or pat their backs?

Now I tend to start making involuntary growling noises if anyone gets within three feet of me. My personal space gets invaded strictly at the offender's peril. Unfortunately I work in an environment stuffed with ambitious go-getters who read "The one minute manager" (and believe it! Fools!), and have taken particular note of the vital importance of touching workmates to show solidarity and empathy.

That's probably not the best move to use on one who's instinctive reaction is to go for their eyes. So how do you bunnies feel on this issue? Do you do it? Do you enjoy being poked and prodded by colleagues and managers? The bastards.

I hate being touched at all by anybody I don't trust completely. If they're just a casual or work-related aquaintance they have no right to be in my personal space. Actual touching gives me the urge to smack them.

Az · June 21, 2003, 11:35

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Originally posted by Eli
There is someone I know who just loves to stand 5cm from your face when she's talking to you.

We start talking, she gets too close, I retreat, she gets closer, I retreat again, she gets even closer, I stumble into the wall and find an excuse to get the hell out of there.

give her a big wet one.

Unless you don't want to.

Urban Ranger · June 21, 2003, 13:07

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Originally posted by Immortal Wombat
Damn you and all those like you

I did that to a poor girl once, quite unintentionally.

Seriously, though, I thought Brits don't have such a large personal space.

Boris Godunov · June 21, 2003, 13:19

I am not too tactile, preferring to have a reasonably large personal space. However, after a few drinks, I become very touchy-feely. When in gay bars, I have a tendency at this point to start pinching nipples.

Panag · June 21, 2003, 13:43

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Originally posted by Eli
There is someone I know who just loves to stand 5cm from your face when she's talking to you.

We start talking, she gets too close, I retreat, she gets closer, I retreat again, she gets even closer, I stumble into the wall and find an excuse to get the hell out of there.

hi ,

maybe she loves you , ....

consider it a psy test for the amry , ....

have a nice day

Dauphin · June 21, 2003, 13:44

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Originally posted by Urban Ranger

Seriously, though, I thought Brits don't have such a large personal space.

I think you may be confusing personal space with living space.

Immortal Wombat · June 21, 2003, 14:02

I would concur. But then I'm a social outcast. What do I know?

Eli · June 21, 2003, 14:17

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Originally posted by panag

hi ,

maybe she loves you , ....

She does that to everyone. It's hilarious to watch... unless you're the one who suffers.

DanS · June 21, 2003, 14:21

and have taken particular note of the vital importance of touching workmates to show solidarity and empathy

Warn them off of it, if they're going to do work in the US. It's a sexual harassment lawsuit waiting to happen.