How do you know it's love? - Page 2

Ecthy · September 15, 2003, 07:10

"you should do something else (specify)

" is not a valid answer, btw...

MikeH · September 15, 2003, 07:14

I don't think you should tell her you love her if you don't. If you don't know tell her you don't know. Better than saying "No" anyway.

Reading between the lines there, if she thinks that you should only be able to sleep with her if you love her does that mean she loves you? She must be nuts.

Ecthy · September 15, 2003, 07:18

it seems, doesn't it?

Rogan Josh · September 15, 2003, 08:09

How do you know if its love?

If she swallows....

-Jrabbit · September 15, 2003, 08:56

@ Rogan -- Actually, that's just how you know that she WANTS it to be love.

@ Ecthelion -- DON'T tell her you love her if you don't (or don't know). Unless you just want to cynically collect as much nookie as possible before it ends. If you go this path, she will blacken your rep with every female she knows.

Your answer should be honest without insulting her. Suggestion -- "How could I not?" combined with a bit of "I want to find out if it's love" (assuming, of course, that's the case).

MikeH · September 15, 2003, 08:59

Saying "How could I not" is implying that you do. I'd say that's just as bad as telling her yes.

Drake Tungsten · September 15, 2003, 09:09

Come on guys, it's really simple. You just tell her that you like her a lot, more than any other girl you've ever dated, but that you just aren't sure if you're really in love or not, having never been in love before. Then throw out some bullshit about how you want to be really sure that you are in love with her before you say it, because you want the moment to be magical or some other pseudo-romantic bullshit. Allows you to give her the self-esteem boost she's looking for without burdening yourself with all the baggage that goes along with actually uttering those three words.

FrustratedPoet · September 15, 2003, 09:18

I love you Ecthy.

Brundlefly · September 15, 2003, 09:59

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Originally posted by Ecthelion
"I wonder why you sleep with me if you don't love me..." is what I was asked recently. I don't know what to reply, I'm not sure if I love her, but I am sure I want to sleep with her, so what should I tell her?

Tell her that you have strong feelings for her and that you enjoy expressing those feelings physically, but that you've also recently noticed that her chain is tarnished and you're not sure if you can fall in love with a person who keeps their chain that way....

Ecthy · September 15, 2003, 10:02

FP?

DT, the thing is, I think I've already done it

FrustratedPoet · September 15, 2003, 10:04

Quote:

Originally posted by Ecthelion
FP?

I just thought that if you heard it more often you might understand how to deal with it better.

Ecthy · September 15, 2003, 10:05

fee fee = limpwrist

Drake Tungsten · September 15, 2003, 10:09

Quote:

DT, the thing is, I think I've already done it.

Sorry, man. Guess you'll just have to live with the consequences. Good luck.

Ecthy · September 15, 2003, 10:11

it was sort of situational though... she might have forgotten

Drake Tungsten · September 15, 2003, 10:13

She'll never forget, if you actually did tell her you love her. And you can be sure it'll come up in the future at the most inopportune times.

Ecthy · September 15, 2003, 10:14

unless we'll get to talk about the whole issue another time, which ironically I hope will happen

Drake Tungsten · September 15, 2003, 10:16

You can't back out of it now. Gonna have to marry her.

Ecthy · September 15, 2003, 10:18

she's talked about children before

and we've only known each other for like 2 and a half weeks

FrustratedPoet · September 15, 2003, 10:19

RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!!!

Drake Tungsten · September 15, 2003, 10:23

Yeah, you might have to take the hit to your reputation and bolt. Talking about children usually isn't a good thing, especially two and a half weeks in.

MikeH · September 15, 2003, 10:25

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Originally posted by Ecthelion
and we've only known each other for like 2 and a half weeks

And she's talking about you loving her? and Children?

RUN!

FrustratedPoet · September 15, 2003, 10:27

Although I think we'd need to see a photo (preferable a lingerie one) before deciding. Committing yourself to months or years of carnal pleasure with a sex goddess isn't the worst thing in the world, after all.