Dating another "race"

[Q Classic]

that said, i don't have anything against interracial dating between asians and non-asians.

heck, i'm asian and dating a caucasian girl.

and by and large, i'm prepared to believe that most non-asian guys aren't fetishists. but then, hearing things like "Mmmmm... asian women....", even said humorously...

[flipside]

Originally posted by Q Cubed
that said, i don't have anything against interracial dating between asians and non-asians.

heck, i'm asian and dating a caucasian girl.

and by and large, i'm prepared to believe that most non-asian guys aren't fetishists. but then, hearing things like "Mmmmm... asian women....", even said humorously...

Makes you realise that someone fancied your mum?

[Q Classic]

Makes you realise that someone fancied your mum?

wasn't a fetishist, not really.

i'm a pure korean... so there's no interracial dating in my family until me.

[Lancer]

I married a Filipina because white women didn't work out for me. Now, I'm so happy I did!

[Q Classic]

and i do believe that you really do love her, else you wouldn't've married her.

plus, i've never seen you make one of those "mm... asian women" cracks.

i'm more than willing to admit that yes, i probably am quite hypersensitive to it. that doesn't change the fact, at least in my opinion, that although there's a lot of positives with interracial dating, it's the fetishists that give it all a horrid name, in particular with non-asian male+asian female dynamic.

until recently, i hadn't met another asian male+non-asian female couple in person. so i still think my type of relationship is a rarer breed.

[Agathon]

Have you ever seen a chick from New Guinea?

I draw the line well before that.

[Lancer]

Q, much rarer breed. Many white guys have run into terrific life shattering situations with women from the US. Every time I help some poor guy meet a Filipina I have to listen to some terrible story. I don't see white women doing the same thing. So, your case is rare I believe. More power to you guy. I love asians, great folks, mostly.

[Urban Ranger]

Originally posted by pchang
Its yellow on the outside and white on the inside.

Exactly!

Then there are eggs

Geek humour: what's the derivative of ln(banana)?

[Bosh]

how 'bout this? it perpetuates the myth that asian women--and by extension, asians in general--are "weak", demure, quiet, submissive, and/or kinky.

You're right, there's a lot of really creepy white guys who come to Asia looking for a ****-toy. I like to think I'm an exception, one of my things I like best about my Korean gf is that she's not demure/quiet/submissive (and doesn't have the slightest bit of gungju byeon / "princess disease" thank god). But then on the other hand, when I moved here I found asian girls on average less physically attractive than white girls but since then its swapped and is slowly moving in the other direction for no good reason I can discern, which is starting to creep me out a bit, I don't want to turn into one of the "Yellow Fever" guys you get around here...

[Ben Kenobi]

Lancer:

Nice to see you back! How have things been going?

I've dated an East-Asian, and a Korean. To me colour should not matter between two people who love each other.

However, my current GF is white, and I'm quite happy with her.

[chequita guevara]

Originally posted by Lancer
I married a Filipina because white women didn't work out for me.

That tends to be why a lot of white guys marry Asian women.

[monolith94]

"I'm kinda like the Lucky Charms of dating"

Only without the lucky. And heck, without the charm as well...

I don't really find the very, very black skin tone all that attractive, but hey, you never know...

[Theben]

Describes yellow fever from the perspective of one asian-american...

http://www.zukazuka.com/cv/YFelectronic.html

[Joseph]

My wife of 38 years 10 months and 21 days is 3/4 Chinese and 1/4 Swedish. Nov. 8, 1964.
And no one and I mean no one pushes her around.

[Ben Kenobi]

He was a gangly white boy who suffered from too nice/too romantic syndrome, which dulled any potential sexual edge, and he often cited this as the reason he could never find a girlfriend. When I would compliment him on his sweet and kind nature, he¡¦d blush and make self-effacing remarks. I remember thinking, at the time, that what he really wanted was a nice Asian girl ¡X by culture, not by race ¡X who might appreciate such qualities in a man because they were so rare in her own patriarchal family (like mine). I also remember thanking goodness he recognized I wasnt that girl.

'Old age gets uneasy when dry bones are mentioned in the proverb.'

[Sikander]

I've dated Chinese and Black and mixed race girls, though the vast majority have been Caucasians. I tend to appreciate a nice or nice looking woman regardless of her race.

[Drake Tungsten]

asian fetishists disgust me

why?

Because they're pathetic ****s. Then again, they don't disgust me. I just pity them.

[The Mad Monk]

Originally posted by chegitz guevara
As long as I can't see the veins beneath her skin, skin color doesn't matter.

Redheads are out, then?

[Drake Tungsten]

Mmmmmm... redheads.

[The Mad Monk]

Originally posted by Azazel


Flesh is flesh, no matter what species it is. QED.

Especially with a nice mustard sauce.

[Urban Ranger]

Originally posted by Theben
Describes yellow fever from the perspective of one asian-american...

http://www.zukazuka.com/cv/YFelectronic.html

Daft layout.

[Q Classic]

daft layout, but says pretty much everything i'm wary of in non-asians who seem to date nothing but asians, and from the dated's perspective, not that of an outsider (like mine).

she has a hilarious picture on the splash page of her site, though. very maoist.

[Q Classic]

I love asians, great folks, mostly.

mostly? it's the parents in law, isn't it?

Q, much rarer breed. Many white guys have run into terrific life shattering situations with women from the US. Every time I help some poor guy meet a Filipina I have to listen to some terrible story.

i don't know if you could limit it just to us women, though. i know quite a few korean men who would do anything to get away from their korean wives... the grass always looks greener on the other side, so to speak.

I don't see white women doing the same thing. So, your case is rare I believe. More power to you guy.

thanks, and i'm not sure why relationships of this type are rarer. part of it, i think, is that we asian men aren't really ever considered. i've yet to see an asian man playing the lead in any semi-romantic storyline, for one.
another, we don't often fit the stereotype of what's attractive. you have the tall, dark and handsome: 'cept we're not particularly tall; you have the he-man, 'cept we're usually of slighter build. so it boils down to that, i guess, we're not what western society considers attractive.

and now that i think about it, asian male-non-asian female relationships... one hears about them, but i only know of two, mine and some random people i passed by on the street once.

this ir dating business is funny. one sees more black male-white female relationships than white male-black female, too.

[DaShi]

Well, I'm stuck in China. Most of the furiner women I meet are as grumpy as me. Who wants that?

[Drake Tungsten]

But then on the other hand, when I moved here I found asian girls on average less physically attractive than white girls but since then its swapped and is slowly moving in the other direction for no good reason I can discern, which is starting to creep me out a bit, I don't want to turn into one of the "Yellow Fever" guys you get around here...

I feel your pain, brother. May god strike me down if I ever catch the fever.

i've yet to see an asian man playing the lead in any semi-romantic storyline, for one.

That's because Hollywood likes male leads who will actually hit on the female leads.

[Bosh]

Well, I'm stuck in China.

What you up to? Teaching like mindseye?

thanks, and i'm not sure why relationships of this type are rarer.

Well there seems to be a good number of asian men with a white girl fetish (have heard stories of hagwon bosses who only hire women and then sexually harass them) but for a lot of reasons (including there being a good chunk of guys with an asian girl fetish) male whities outnumber female whities by a good margin and a lot of the white girls are here with their boyfriends. Well I guess there's always the russian strippers (who wouldn't be here in such numbers if it wasn't for a pretty widespread bit of white girl fetish)...

[Q Classic]

That's because Hollywood likes male leads who will actually hit on the female leads.

what, the guy that ali wrote about doesn't cut it?

dreamworks has bought the remake rights to "my sassy girl"--and i'm hoping that they remake it with asians, because a bunch of the humor does sprout from korean/asian sensibilities.

that might change their minds.

[Drake Tungsten]

what, the guy that ali wrote about doesn't cut it?

You sure you want a creepy guy observing a woman's cycles to be the image every American associates with Korean men?

[Q Classic]

Well there seems to be a good number of asian men with a white girl fetish (have heard stories of hagwon bosses who only hire women and then sexually harass them) but for a lot of reasons (including there being a good chunk of guys with an asian girl fetish) male whities outnumber female whities by a good margin and a lot of the white girls are here with their boyfriends. Well I guess there's always the russian strippers (who wouldn't be here in such numbers if it wasn't for a pretty widespread bit of white girl fetish)...

i suppose things are a bit different over there. here, all the asian guys tend to stick to the party, er, family line, and tend to only date other asians, unless they're rebellious/fully americanized.

i'm the latter.

[Q Classic]

You sure you want a creepy guy observing a woman's cycles to be the image every American associates with Koreans?

surely can't be worse than the dog-eaters, or the generic slant-eye thing...

well, maybe it can.